Has Your Marriage Reached The End Of Its Rope?
Statistically speaking, about half of married men will get a divorce. Several factors can lead to the dissolution of a marriage, but the process nevertheless comes with many questions and not many answers. If any of the following apply to you, you might benefit from divorce counseling through Therapy 4Men:
- Are you currently going through a divorce or considering getting one?
- Is the process making you feel isolated, frustrated, and out of control?
- Or have you recently gone through a divorce and are looking for support as you rebuild your life?
This is a significant transition, so you may be looking for guidance on adjusting in a manageable way that lessens the emotional burden on you and your kids (if you have any). Though you might be holding onto some residual anger toward your ex, you probably feel invested in figuring out how to let go of the negativity and move on with your life. Not to mention, you may have noticed an uptick in mental health symptoms, including anxiety, hopelessness, social withdrawal, and substance use.
Therapy offers you a way to proceed with the divorce process as peacefully and efficiently as possible. By learning strategies for managing stress and identifying actionable solutions for the financial, logistical, and relational obstacles on the horizon, divorce counseling can help you chart a new path forward.
You Are Not Alone
We all know about the dreaded “half-of-marriages-end-in-divorce” statistic. Despite entering our marriages with every intention to beat the odds, however, the simple truth is that many marriages don’t work out.
Divorce is not “wrong” or anything to be ashamed of. Still, we often have to contend with social stigmas and complicated relationship dynamics with our exes, as well as our kids, other family members, and friends we once shared with our partners. Unfortunately, as men, we don’t always have the best avenues for emotional support, and we might tell ourselves that we have to “man up” and get through these obstacles on our own.
But counseling offers a safe, nonjudgmental, and confidential atmosphere where you can make decisions about your divorce and what you want your life to look like following it. Working together, we will establish new building blocks for the future and get to work on construction.
Divorce Counseling Through Therapy 4Men
Having worked with men from all walks of life in therapy for over a decade, I have seen clients through every step of the divorce process. Whether you are starting fresh, reeling from separation and/or infidelity, in the midst of legal proceedings and co-parenting disagreements, or deciding whether to get a divorce in the first place, counseling will be your time to address your most immediate concerns.
As we work to understand how you got to this point, I can help you identify specific patterns or limiting beliefs that have contributed to conflict or discord in the past. With that knowledge, you can develop new communication strategies, coping skills, and relationship patterns. This will not only help you to relate to your ex and your children more effectively right now—it will help you to create healthier, more sustainable connections in the future.
Therapy allows you to feel informed—rather than controlled—by your emotions. Using behavioral and mindfulness techniques, you can understand your feelings better and communicate your needs more effectively. And as you enhance self-understanding, you will learn to identify when counterproductive beliefs are holding you back.
No matter how things end or why, divorce is a grieving process—there is often a loss of control, a loss of security, and a loss of the vision of the life you once had. There is also a legal process full of big decisions and complicated logistics. Though many men complete the latter, they might struggle to fully comprehend the emotional side of divorce. Yet, each step of this process must be completed in order to move on.
As your therapist, I am here to walk through the divorce process alongside you. Through our work together in counseling, you can recognize and leverage your strengths, embracing a new, hopeful life.
Common Questions About Therapy
++ How will talking about my divorce with a therapist actually help?
My counseling philosophy is “a problem shared is a problem halved.” I believe that therapy has the potential to offer meaningful perspectives on your life and relationships no matter where you are in the divorce process. Whether you are still making decisions about your marriage or have already completed the legal process, counseling can help you reduce stress, feelings of isolation, and other mental health symptoms that are typical of this transition.
++ My divorce is already time-consuming and expensive enough—I don’t have the time or money for counseling.
I completely understand that it feels like your resources are wearing thin at the moment, but the emotional and financial cost of not being in therapy during this time can actually be quite steep. I’ve worked with a lot of men in counseling who, instead of finding healthy ways to handle the emotional upheaval of their separation or divorce, wasted a lot of time and money arguing with their ex, getting into avoidable conflicts with their kids, and relying on unhealthy coping mechanisms like drinking.
Working through the emotions that come with divorce will be your key to freedom. By learning how to manage the stress and adjustment in a healthy way, you will feel much more prepared to move forward with your life, opening up the possibilities of new experiences, new relationships, and a new way of being.
++ I can’t imagine talking about my problems with a complete stranger; I am worried I will look weak or foolish.
I shared some of these concerns myself when I began therapy. I hesitated about opening up with a therapist, but I am glad I did. Counseling allowed me to acknowledge unhealthy patterns and setbacks in my life, paving the way toward genuine progress.
True strength lies in confronting the parts of yourself that don’t serve your best interests. Especially at a time in your life when there are so many changes and new beginnings, divorce counseling provides you with an opportunity to become the best version of yourself. I am a nonjudgmental, unbiased therapist who has seen it all, and I want to offer you a space in your life where you can feel supported and comfortable discussing what you’re going through.
FAQs about treatment for depression
++ I don’t have the time and money to invest in treatment for depression.
I encourage you to think about the long-term price of not seeking help for your depression, including the price of your self-assurance. The majority of my clients complete treatment feeling more in control of their lives and end up benefitting in the long-term from increased energy, confidence, and productivity.
Keep in mind that if time constraints are an issue, I offer flexible online sessions throughout the day to accommodate your schedule.
++ How will talking to someone actually change the facts of my situation?
Have you ever heard the expression “A problem shared is a problem halved”? Therapy can offer a new perspective on and understanding of yourself and the problems you’re facing. Fully disclosing your burdens in a supportive space and being truly heard can help you free up mental and emotional energy to move forward on finding solutions to your problems. Treatment for your depression can offer clarity in all aspects of your life.
++ I am worried about losing control of my emotions around a stranger and looking foolish or weak.
I myself shared these concerns when I began therapy. I was hesitant in opening up to someone I didn’t know, but I am so glad I did. Therapy helped me to confront my problems and make progress in my life.
True strength lies in acknowledging and confronting the parts of yourself that are holding you back so that you can start the process of becoming the best version of yourself. I am a nonjudgmental and unbiased professional who aims to provide a safe space in which my clients can feel vulnerable and supported.
A Brighter Future Awaits You
If you are considering, in the process of, or reeling from a divorce, counseling through Therapy 4Men can help you chart an intentional, harmonious path forward. Find out more about how I can help by scheduling a free, 15-minute consultation today. I have office locations in San Francisco and Corte Madera, and online sessions are available to residents throughout California.
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