This is a significant transition, so you may be looking for guidance on adjusting in a manageable way that lessens the emotional burden on you and your kids (if you have any).

Though you might be holding onto some residual anger toward your ex, you probably feel invested in figuring out how to let go of the negativity and move on with your life.

Not to mention, you may have noticed an uptick in mental health symptoms, including anxiety, hopelessness, social withdrawal, and substance use.

Therapy offers you a way to proceed with the divorce process as peacefully and efficiently as possible. By learning strategies for managing stress and identifying actionable solutions for the financial, logistical, and relational obstacles on the horizon, divorce counseling can help you chart a new path forward.

We all know about the dreaded “half-of-marriages-end-in-divorce” statistic. Despite entering our marriages with every intention to beat the odds, however, the simple truth is that many marriages don’t work out.

Divorce is not “wrong” or anything to be ashamed of. Still, we often have to contend with social stigmas and complicated relationship dynamics with our exes, as well as our kids, other family members, and friends we once shared with our partners. Unfortunately, as men, we don’t always have the best avenues for emotional support, and we might tell ourselves that we have to “man up” and get through these obstacles on our own.

But counseling offers a safe, nonjudgmental, and confidential atmosphere where you can make decisions about your divorce and what you want your life to look like following it. Working together, we will establish new building blocks for the future and get to work on construction.

Having worked with men from all walks of life in therapy for over a decade, I have seen clients through every step of the divorce process. Whether you are starting fresh, reeling from separation and/or infidelity, in the midst of legal proceedings and co-parenting disagreements, or deciding whether to get a divorce in the first place.

As we work to understand how you got to this point, I can help you identify specific patterns or limiting beliefs that have contributed to conflict or discord in the past. With that knowledge, you can develop new communication strategies, coping skills, and relationship patterns.

This will not only help you to relate to your ex and your children more effectively right now—it will help you to create healthier, more sustainable connections in the future.

Using behavioral and mindfulness techniques, you can understand your feelings better and communicate your needs more effectively. And as you enhance self-understanding, you will learn to identify when counterproductive beliefs are holding you back.

There is often a loss of control, a loss of security, and a loss of the vision of the life you once had. There is also a legal process full of big decisions and complicated logistics. Though many men complete the latter, they might struggle to fully comprehend the emotional side of divorce. Yet, each step of this process must be completed in order to move on.

As your therapist, I am here to walk through the divorce process alongside you. Through our work together in counseling, you can recognize and leverage your strengths, embracing a new, hopeful life.