Men and women are biologically different in so many ways. One aspect of this reality does not get as much attention as it warrants: Men and women handle stress differently. For example, women are more likely to report feeling stressed. This includes the reporting of...
It’s no fun when you’re faced with a question that has no easy answers. Divorce is a painful experience. When children are involved, it almost always hits them the hardest. Therefore, attempting to predict their reaction to any related occurrence is a tricky...
Develop Self-Awareness Be honest about your history. Were you close with your siblings? Did you sustain long friendships or move around from group to group? What about your dating history? Be bold enough to recognize whether or not you’ve been able to cultivate...
Sometimes, even the best intentions can be taken too far. This is the case with a codependent person. Think of someone with a good heart. Their default setting is to help others. If such a person enters into a relationship, this desire to help can become unhealthy. It...
For many people, the word “boundaries” is not associated with a healthy, long-term romantic relationship. Why in the world would you need boundaries between yourself and someone you love? This is a fundamental misunderstanding of what boundary-setting entails. It’s...
Conflict is inevitable. It’s almost always uncomfortable in the moment but frequently, conflict can be a valuable part of life. Whether or not you find value is incumbent on being open to learning and growing. You can engage in conflict in a healthy way. You can...
Truth be told, any individual trait or attribute will affect our relationships. Therefore, it only makes sense that if one or both partners are struggling with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), there will be impacts. ADHD is a neurodevelopment disorder...
We all know the clichés about money. But, the thing about clichés is that they are very often based on truth. So, when you get word that your family is about to navigate a transfer of wealth or you experience a sudden windfall, you’re wise to feel the need for...
There are plenty of valid reasons to feel anxious before getting married. This doesn’t automatically mean you’re getting “cold feet.” You are making a major emotional commitment. In the process, you’re probably also making a huge financial commitment. These are...
Ask someone what they would do if they won the lottery or if the options they have from their job led to a huge windfall. They will almost certainly recite a list of purchases and actions. Part of that will probably include how they’d help their family. Wealth and...
Everyone knows the divorce rate has hovered around 50 percent since, well… forever. The rate is much higher for second and third marriages. But statistics only matter to you when you become a statistic yourself. For men, divorce can feel like a loss of identity. It’s...
Yes, there is life after divorce. But, like any point in your life, it requires your full attention. Even if you feel the divorce was the best thing that ever happened to you, choose mindfulness. Any type of major shift is stressful. If there are children involved,...
Say the word infidelity and it will automatically conjure up images of cheating and extramarital affairs. Estimates are hard to pin down but as many as 25 percent of women and 40 percent of men engage in sexual infidelity. So yeah, it’s a natural association. However,...
Anger understandably has a really bad reputation. A lot of it is earned but let’s not assume that anger is never helpful. In moderation, it definitely serves an important purpose. In fact, we’ll get to that very soon. But first, we must address the reality that anger...
Contrary to popular opinion, men very often struggle with divorce. Such a split hits everyone differently, of course, but some general trends exist. For example, no matter if the divorce was a long time coming or a total surprise, men and women have unique emotional...
Low libido is far more common than you may imagine. People just do not talk much about it. In context, it’s not automatically a cause for concern. People can temporarily experience low libido for some pretty obvious and common reasons. These can include general...
We live in a culture that idealizes independence to the extreme. Movie heroes, for example, are never dependent on others. And heaven forbid they should venture into codependency. This highly independent stereotype is even more idealized for men. But, here’s the...
This is a very tricky question to answer. With the advent of the internet, it’s become common to access hardcore porn. Therefore, even if you consume a lot of it, you may still view this as normal and acceptable. Simultaneously, the vast majority of people hide their...
Is it true that some people are just “lucky in love”? Could it be that there are folks who aren’t meant to have a healthy relationship? Short answer: No. More likely, there are some very important underlying factors to consider. Early childhood experiences with...
What does the word “expectations” mean to you? It typically conjures up images of measuring what may be coming your way (and hopefully not something that you’ve been lowering too often). Expectations are important but, there is another angle from which to ponder this...
Helping men clarify and connect with their internal values and strengths so they can move forward with confidence and purpose is what I do. Sometimes we need a new perspective on what is holding us back. Often the negative voice in our head is our biggest obstacle and seeing things clearly to find a path forward can be difficult. You can get out of your rut and create the life you want.
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