It’s normal to feel bad if you lose your job. Even if you hated it, there’s the reality that bills need to be paid. Hence, you will feel some inevitable grief over the loss. The key is to let yourself feel — but don’t let it linger. Research shows that the longer you...
How you feel about your career choice is a major concern. Whether you go to a workplace or work from home, you spend a large chunk of your life working. If you are not happy with your job — for any reason — there’s a good chance you’re also not super happy about your...
Graduating college is a rite of passage, a source of pride, and basically, a big deal. Rarely is it ever associated with depression. But in reality, this is a common trend. Like any major transition, college graduation carries a lot of weight. It involves myriad...
We all know the clichés about money. But, the thing about clichés is that they are very often based on truth. So, when you get word that your family is about to navigate a transfer of wealth or you experience a sudden windfall, you’re wise to feel the need for...
When does “social drinking” morph into a problem? How can you tell the difference between “partying” and having a complex brain disorder? Sure, no one wants to contemplate such questions when enjoying time with friends. But sometimes, your behavior is not just a...
We’ve come a long way when it comes to shattering the dangerous stigmas that can surround mental health. A high-profile example is the trend of professional athletes talking openly about their struggles. Even prizefighters feel more comfortable discussing a topic like...
According to the notorious Urban Dictionary, “adulting” is about “carrying out the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals.” That entry ends with a snarky line declaring that the word “adulting” is “exclusively used by those who adult less...
There are plenty of valid reasons to feel anxious before getting married. This doesn’t automatically mean you’re getting “cold feet.” You are making a major emotional commitment. In the process, you’re probably also making a huge financial commitment. These are...
Everyone reading this has experienced grief or will do so eventually. It is a normal and inescapable part of the human condition. With this inevitability in mind, it makes sense that we’d want to learn more and prepare, if possible. But how? Most people reading this...
Ask someone what they would do if they won the lottery or if the options they have from their job led to a huge windfall. They will almost certainly recite a list of purchases and actions. Part of that will probably include how they’d help their family. Wealth and...
Everyone knows the divorce rate has hovered around 50 percent since, well… forever. The rate is much higher for second and third marriages. But statistics only matter to you when you become a statistic yourself. For men, divorce can feel like a loss of identity. It’s...
Young men deal with many myths when it comes to mental health. After all, the conventional “wisdom” goes, what would a young man have to be depressed about? Just wait until you’re older, they’re told, and you’ll see how tough life really gets. Even when such “advice”...
Yes, there is life after divorce. But, like any point in your life, it requires your full attention. Even if you feel the divorce was the best thing that ever happened to you, choose mindfulness. Any type of major shift is stressful. If there are children involved,...
Say the word infidelity and it will automatically conjure up images of cheating and extramarital affairs. Estimates are hard to pin down but as many as 25 percent of women and 40 percent of men engage in sexual infidelity. So yeah, it’s a natural association. However,...
Anger understandably has a really bad reputation. A lot of it is earned but let’s not assume that anger is never helpful. In moderation, it definitely serves an important purpose. In fact, we’ll get to that very soon. But first, we must address the reality that anger...
Contrary to popular opinion, men very often struggle with divorce. Such a split hits everyone differently, of course, but some general trends exist. For example, no matter if the divorce was a long time coming or a total surprise, men and women have unique emotional...
From a very early age, boys are told to be tough, never show weakness, and (of course) don’t cry. There are so, so many reasons why this conditioning is negative. As it pertains to depression, our socialization can be debilitating. Depression is more common in women....
Real men don’t get anxious, right? If you trusted fairy tales and pop culture, you might feel this way. In reality, anxiety is the most common mental health disorder. It does impact women more frequently but plenty of men are struggling with conditions like...
The term “performance anxiety” is not a technical term. It can cover a wide range of activities. However, when used, it most often refers to feeling fear, dread, or panic about performing a task. This fear often begins long before the task begins. It usually involves...
The pandemic lockdowns didn’t create social anxiety. But they sure didn’t help. We live in a society that has become increasingly digitized. Like any such development, this comes with pluses and minuses. In the minus category is a decrease in face-to-face...
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